Happy Thanksgiving. Happy Hanukkah. Happy Thursday. There's a lot going on today. I wanted to share a little about what my family is doing for the holiday and I'd love to hear about your day! When my mom passed away, my dad sold the dining room furniture. He didn't want to celebrate the holidays at his house anymore. He also didn't want to ask any of us, his daughters, to host the family dinner either. So each year for Thanksgiving and Easter we go out to dinner. We head to the Oberlin Inn for a buffett. It's a chance for my family to get together and enjoy each other's company. It's also a chance for us to celebrate my sister's birthday. My husband, I and various children (depending on who's working) drive down to Ohio for brunch. The drive isn't too long and is often filled with conversation and laughter. I share about memories along the way to the frustration of my family who has heard many of my stories time and time again. We always stop at the cemetery to visit my mom's grave. At the Evergreen Cemetery in South Amherst, many generations of my family are buried there and we drive by and point out each one, from the two brothers who died in WWII on my birthday before I was born to my grandparents and mom. The peacefulness of the cemetery allows me to talk to my mom and share about my life. Tears usually flow as I cross the crisp earth and head back to my truck. After the cemetery, we head to brunch. Dad always is in charge. He's guaranteed to be the first there and the first to leave. He must have a plan in his head for what he wants, but I'm never sure what it is. After dinner, we head back to his home for birthday cake and presents. Then, we head home, heavy in heart but happy that we spent time together as a family. Because of our travels, I haven't watched the parade in so many years. But that was always a fun thing to do on Turkey Day! Thankfully, we have a few days' break before we do our second Thanksgiving with my husband's family. I often feel sad for my sisters who have to cram two dinners into one day, although they don't have the drive I do.
Grab a seat and share! What are your plans for Thanksgiving or Hanukkah? Do you do anything special? I'd love to hear about your holidays. And remember to be safe and Have a Happy Thanksgiving and Blessed Hanukkah! 11/27/2013 12:02:41 pm
Awww...you know, I think going out to eat on Thanksgiving is really neat. Nothing to cook, nothing to clean up, no relatives to bug you, lol. I'm so sorry about your mom. Mine died when I was 19. I was a young little thing. The holidays are hard now but we grow up and have families and take on new traditions in the hope we can recapture a great family time like we had when we were younger and didn't have a care in the world. I don't blame your dad really, the pain was probably pretty awful. Glad you did find something all of you can do together and making new memories. Happy Thanksgiving Melissa! BTW, my daughter is named Melissa, too!
Melissa Keir
11/27/2013 12:50:05 pm
My dad likes to think of us. He doesn't want to put anyone out. Two of my sisters live right by him, so he isn't alone. I'm about three hours away and we try to get down often. But it isn't enough. I'm sorry about your mom. I'm sure that at 19, it was a huge loss.
Melissa Keir
11/27/2013 12:47:53 pm
Thank you Andrea! You're right. It's easy but also no leftovers! :( 11/27/2013 01:31:41 pm
Being Canadian - not much is going on tomorrow. I might go to yoga!
Melissa Keir
11/29/2013 11:20:05 am
I hope you had a good day anyway! 11/27/2013 02:25:29 pm
Actually she doesn't. No one wanted to call her Missy or anything like that. My son who couldn't talk well when he was younger called her Sa, lol. How about you?
Melissa Keir
11/29/2013 11:20:49 am
My family called me Missy.... but other people called me Lissa or Mel. I liked the latter two better than Missy.
Melissa, I understand missing your mother and how your father wouldn't want Thanksgiving at his house or burden you kids with the job. Fixing is a fun job for some, and I'm sure your mom loved doing it for her family. I'm so glad you have the memories from other years.
Melissa Keir
11/29/2013 11:22:32 am
Thanks Sandy. It is easier to go out to dinner and no leftovers. I hope you had a wonderful day!
Melissa Keir
11/29/2013 11:21:12 am
Thank you Ella! I hope you have a wonderful day too! Comments are closed.
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