After my divorce, I not only lost a husband and his income but I also lost his family. Sometimes that might be a good thing. Think about the family issues you leave behind.
However in my case, it was like losing my own family. I once joked with my former mother-in-law that I wished she'd adopt me. Maybe I really married my ex-husband because of his family...but now that we are divorced, I don't have them in my life anymore. I think it's in the rules of divorce that parents must take their own children's side.
Today I learned that my former husband's grandmother is dying. Of course, my heart is breaking. She was always a caring and helpful. I really enjoyed spending time with her. When I was a part of the family, we always spent a week together at the beach. We would go out to dinner and go shopping together.
But I'm not a part of the family anymore. How do you handle the death of someone who used to be as close to you as your own grandmother but once the marriage was over, you haven't seen? I am trying to be there for my children who while are now adults, are reeling from the devastating news. Although I am also trying to figure out my own feelings.
Who would have thought that there were more than "things" that you would miss after the divorce?
Musings from Michigan